Everyone at work is talking about the various holiday parties going on in the industry this season. I have no desire to go to the party, if there even is one, for internship #1, if I were even invited in the first place! All this talk reminds me of the work holiday party I went to last year. The one that was in the show room of my office...the one where we had a painfully long karaoke session that quickly turned into a striptease, left that office, went out to dinner, then went to a bar, and by the time I left...our tech guy was sleeping at the bar, and our other tech guy was making out with the tech girl, getting ready to leave with her. The next day my boss told me if I went into the office to get her computer I could stay home the rest of the day. I got to the office and less than half the company was there and the people that were there were either a) hung over or b) feeling awkward about the previous night's shenanigans. The night was however, one I think of often and with fond memories.
I didn't take part in anything too crazy, but in case you did, here are a few tips to avoid that awkward next day conversation in the office kitchen.
The Daylight Rule - It's okay to drink at your office's holiday party, but don't drink more than you would during the day. A lot of times we feel protected by the darkness of the night and tend to act out of character. Socialize and have a drink or two, but you shouldn't be drunk. Always remember to keep your drink in your left hand so you right hand is free to shake hands with other people.
Spread Out - Holiday parties are one of the few times you'll be in the same room with the people on the very bottom of the food chain and the very stop. It's easy to stick with your go-to group of office friends but try to spread out and socialize with different people. I took the opportunity to talk to the CEO last year and we had such a nice conversation, we even took pictures. After that he always said hello to me and remembered my name.
Research - Make sure you know what type of party this is--is it going to be in the office, at a bar, at a bowling alley? The setting can give you a pretty good idea of what the atmosphere will be. Find out what the dress code is too..unless you go to work everyday wearing casual clothes (like I usually do) you don't want to wear something too crazy or too revealing. I think of these parties in the same way as when you were a kid and saw your teacher in regular people clothes outside of the classroom on weekends. People will be looking at you differently in this different setting and you still want to keep it on some type of professional level.
Show Up - People will be talking about those who don't show up and often times, the holiday party is a great way to bond with your co-workers. You don't want to miss out on this and be excluded from the party convos around the office the next day. Even if you only stay an hour, make the effort to show up and appear happy to be there! Don't stay out too late though because you DO have to go to work tomorrow and you can't exactly lie to your boss and say you can't come to work because your dog is sick when the entire office knows you were out partying until 3 am.
Most importantly, have a good time...you worked hard all year and you deserve it! Remember to think about what kind of office culture your company has and translate that to a party setting. Happy Holidays :-)
This weekend I went out to celebrate one of my old roommate's birthday (I think I have the record for the most amount of past roommates, but that's for another blog). We went to a club downtown and I was the 2nd person to show up on her guest list. Lame. It was pretty awkward, just sitting there with my $10 drink, looking at my phone every 5 minutes (okay, 5 seconds), and waiting for everyone else to show up. The DJ played some pretty good songs, usually when you show up that early the songs suck and you wonder how this guy even got a job in the first place, then you hope no one is paying this loser to spin such crap.
Finally everyone else coming for her party showed up but no one was really dancing yet. And then the same thing happened that happens every time you go to any club that plays Hip-Hop. The DJ played a set of songs from when one of the labels I work at was in its hey day and the club went nuts, like it always does. I've been hearing variations on this set since I was 12 years old sneaking into clubs I had no business being in (sorry, Mom!). And if you thought about it for a minute, you probably just figured out where I work. But this time it was different.
Those songs came on and everyone put their game face on and started dancing. That's how you get the party started, every DJ knows that (and if you don't, then don't quit your day job).
Anyway, I started dancing and was just as ecstatic as everyone else to hear these songs. But then I remembered I WORK at the place that put these hits out. I was overcome with a huge sense of pride because I remembered this is why I want to work in the music industry. I want to help make the hits that people go crazy for and make them forget that anything else in the world exists except this one song.
So at the end of the day, yeah, its worth it.
